Well written, compelling and frightening. I think too that women have a keener intuition on some matters than men, and vice versa.
There is a great little book about what a lie really is and is not. They define a lie as a statement having two key elements: 1) it knowingly asserts something untrue and 2) it is likely to harm someone(s) or be negligent about the likelihood of harming someone(s). It compares this with bullshit where it one asserts something untrue but without intent or likelihood of causing harm. Eg “I caught a fish THIS BIG”. The book is “On Bullshit”. By these definitions, I would say you did lie to the Mistress because it’s possible she could have harmed herself or another with the fake news. But I would say the second was not a lie, and indeed mere survival mode, because your actions didn’t seem likely to harm anyone. Stay as safe as possible, Rea.
Writers lie but we call it invention. Intuition never lies. It's only a matter of whether or not we choose to heed what our intuition is telling us. Thank you for this. Love, V.
Certain situations warrant a lie or two. Of course, I am honest in normal circumstances. It is my first value. My intuition has helped me out of many difficult situations.
I’ve done the same thing to uncover the truth. I’d drop a seed, let it germinate, and they’d confess all. It was an intuitive moment that saved me many more years of my devotion and their deception… I’m not sorry 😉
During my divorce many many years ago, we posted an dating "ad" and of course my ex husband answered it. It's hard to believe I was so desperate to find the truth (and stop the gaslighting) that I resorted to something like that. But it worked. I think when we are pushed to be untruthful/lie like that, it's usually for a very good reason.
Well written, compelling and frightening. I think too that women have a keener intuition on some matters than men, and vice versa.
There is a great little book about what a lie really is and is not. They define a lie as a statement having two key elements: 1) it knowingly asserts something untrue and 2) it is likely to harm someone(s) or be negligent about the likelihood of harming someone(s). It compares this with bullshit where it one asserts something untrue but without intent or likelihood of causing harm. Eg “I caught a fish THIS BIG”. The book is “On Bullshit”. By these definitions, I would say you did lie to the Mistress because it’s possible she could have harmed herself or another with the fake news. But I would say the second was not a lie, and indeed mere survival mode, because your actions didn’t seem likely to harm anyone. Stay as safe as possible, Rea.
Thank you for your honest and thoughtful comment.
My husband and his mistress had it coming.
That made me nod.
Indeed
I would never ;)
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Writers lie but we call it invention. Intuition never lies. It's only a matter of whether or not we choose to heed what our intuition is telling us. Thank you for this. Love, V.
Love right back Virg! ❤️
Can’t say I relate exactly because I’m honest to a fault.
Truth is my primary value. I love to hear that you trust your intuition so fiercely and that it has never been wrong.
Certain situations warrant a lie or two. Of course, I am honest in normal circumstances. It is my first value. My intuition has helped me out of many difficult situations.
I’ve done the same thing to uncover the truth. I’d drop a seed, let it germinate, and they’d confess all. It was an intuitive moment that saved me many more years of my devotion and their deception… I’m not sorry 😉
My intuition saved me a few times. I see their truth in the lies.
During my divorce many many years ago, we posted an dating "ad" and of course my ex husband answered it. It's hard to believe I was so desperate to find the truth (and stop the gaslighting) that I resorted to something like that. But it worked. I think when we are pushed to be untruthful/lie like that, it's usually for a very good reason.
We know when something is brewing under the surface. I want to know everything, even if it means heartbreak. So yes it justified our lies.
Yes, second one survival mode. Wow...amazing
Absolutely!