Rea, our children's names are important because their lives still matter deeply. We can't simply move on from the loss caused by death; it is not just a cold or flu, but a profound pain that stays with us. ❤️Emile❤️. ❤️Kevin❤️
A friend taught me this lesson years ago when she experienced a stillbirth. She told me people didn't want to say her baby's name thinking doing so would make her sad - like she wasn't already thinking about her baby and not already sad about what happened.
No matter who we grieve for, we love to hear the name of our loved one said out loud. We love to hear stories and memories held about them. When the grief is for a child, even more so.
I love what one of the commenters said (I'm paraphrasing) - Emile was like a beautiful poem. Not very long but making a powerful impact, nonetheless.
People don’t know what to do with death, and particularly loss by suicide. And grief gets inconvenient for other people. Keep talking about your beautiful Emile as much as you want. You will always love him, and he will always be yours. We are here for you.
Emile is with you, just as Elliot is with me, and their names keep them in the present tense. I recently contributed a challenge grant to KERAfm, our local NPR station, from the memorial we established in Elliot's memory at the Communities Foundation of Texas. One of the most profound parts of the giving experience was hearing the live radio hosts repeat his name on the air for several hours -- The Elliot Everett Wright Tsundoku (because he collected more books than he could ever read) Fund. I listened the whole time. His memory and spirit were present. Thank you for this. 💜
We name them at birth, sometimes even before they enter this world... their names are here forever as are their souls, let's speak their names out loud... to cherish, remember and acknowledge ✨️ ♥️
Unfortunately, people feel uncomfortable with someone's death of a child; they are uneasy, so they do not acknowledge your pain or your child's existence. This makes me so sad to hear abou the insensitiveness of people. I will say his name. Emile..
I love how true this is. People who are no longer here rarely ever gets mentioned because someone might be too sad to talk about that person. But it helps to talk about them. I love how when we are together and you talk about Emile asif he is away on a trip or something and how much life you bring into the stories you tell about him in your words. I can never forget him, he is a part of us.
Say their names…and don’t go quiet when we talk about them. It feels so simple doesn’t it, and makes all the difference to us mums. DM me if you still want to write a piece for the collaboration Rea, I’d love to get to know more about Emile, expect he was lovely like his mum ❤️
Scientists and soldiers share one virtue: names do not die and memory never fails.
That’s a precious thought, Irving. Thank you.
Emile, such a beautiful name 💙
My mind adds an S, and I feel the word “Smile” + the energy of love reading his name.
I completely understand every word and share your heartbreak. My StarChild was only planet side for 19 years.
I know he will be forever tucked in your heart along with many.
(((Hugs)))
Smile, oh that’s lovely, Marjorie! They will forever be connected to us, my friend. (((((Hugs))))))
I saw the word Smile right away, read your offering, then scrolled back up, blinked & read Emile… one of those glimmer moments. I know you know ✨🤗✨
I know! My beautiful Emile smiles at this. : ) Thank you. <3
Rea, our children's names are important because their lives still matter deeply. We can't simply move on from the loss caused by death; it is not just a cold or flu, but a profound pain that stays with us. ❤️Emile❤️. ❤️Kevin❤️
❤️Kevin❤️ ❤️Emile❤️ Forever.
Emile!!!! Loved always. Like a poem that needs to be spoken out loud. Never forgotten. Eternal Emile. <3
Thank you, Stephanie! Like a poem, that’s beautiful. <3
“Eternal Emile”~
Like others who left early,
lives~ now ever smiles~
Yes Marisol, yes! <3
(((((Emile))))) May your memories console you and his smile ever be near to remember. 🫶
Thank you, Lily! 🫶
Hi Rea,
A friend taught me this lesson years ago when she experienced a stillbirth. She told me people didn't want to say her baby's name thinking doing so would make her sad - like she wasn't already thinking about her baby and not already sad about what happened.
No matter who we grieve for, we love to hear the name of our loved one said out loud. We love to hear stories and memories held about them. When the grief is for a child, even more so.
I love what one of the commenters said (I'm paraphrasing) - Emile was like a beautiful poem. Not very long but making a powerful impact, nonetheless.
Thank you for writing about Emile.
Thank you for your compassion, Nancy. They were part of us. ❤️
People don’t know what to do with death, and particularly loss by suicide. And grief gets inconvenient for other people. Keep talking about your beautiful Emile as much as you want. You will always love him, and he will always be yours. We are here for you.
I think people are terrified it will happen to them. Thank lovely Lisa.
I honestly never thought of that, Rea. What a devastating point.
Emile is with you, just as Elliot is with me, and their names keep them in the present tense. I recently contributed a challenge grant to KERAfm, our local NPR station, from the memorial we established in Elliot's memory at the Communities Foundation of Texas. One of the most profound parts of the giving experience was hearing the live radio hosts repeat his name on the air for several hours -- The Elliot Everett Wright Tsundoku (because he collected more books than he could ever read) Fund. I listened the whole time. His memory and spirit were present. Thank you for this. 💜
I can imagine how wonderful that was, Elaine. They know when we remember them. Hugs. 💜
We name them at birth, sometimes even before they enter this world... their names are here forever as are their souls, let's speak their names out loud... to cherish, remember and acknowledge ✨️ ♥️
Yes! They deserve to be remembered. Thank you, Vlinder. ❤️❤️
Emile is not forgotten.
Thank you, Virg.
Hi Rea,
Unfortunately, people feel uncomfortable with someone's death of a child; they are uneasy, so they do not acknowledge your pain or your child's existence. This makes me so sad to hear abou the insensitiveness of people. I will say his name. Emile..
Thank you, dear Beth! ❤️
I love how true this is. People who are no longer here rarely ever gets mentioned because someone might be too sad to talk about that person. But it helps to talk about them. I love how when we are together and you talk about Emile asif he is away on a trip or something and how much life you bring into the stories you tell about him in your words. I can never forget him, he is a part of us.
I know you understand, and love him. Thank you. ❤️❤️
Emile. A name that is spoken this morning, out loud and will not be silenced.
Thank you, Chris. I’m with you.
Say their names…and don’t go quiet when we talk about them. It feels so simple doesn’t it, and makes all the difference to us mums. DM me if you still want to write a piece for the collaboration Rea, I’d love to get to know more about Emile, expect he was lovely like his mum ❤️
Thank you dear Esther. I do and I will. ❤️
I am so sorry for your lose, Rea. I hope Emile's memory never fades
Thank you, Daniel. He shines like a star.
Remember the good times. It won't take away the pain, but it will help you get through the hard times.
The memories keep me going. Thank you, Nancy.