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Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you for the restack!

Melanie Cole's avatar

This was beautiful. You hit the nail on the head with the final "first." The forgetting. I actually have a clock set in my phone because I'm so afraid I'll forget it. But we move forward. We move through. We continue.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Melanie. That, we do. We can’t tarry in the past indefinitely. Sending love my friend.

Siyabonga Mchunu's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Siyabonga! We all have our crosses to bear.

Aliyah's avatar

You have so much light and love to give. Thank you for sharing this

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Aliyah. 🙏💓

Martine 🦋's avatar

Oohh Rea.... those firsts.

You're so on point. Special dates will always be there and can be difficult, but not so very dark anymore. We are allowed to smile, be happy....

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Yes Simona, we are. We will never forget, but we don’t get pulled down by the darkness now. Thank you for your kind comment. <3

Joe Nichols's avatar

I have an anniversary of death coming soon. Thank you for this.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Sending you love and peace Joe.

Virginia Curtis's avatar

The world doesn't stop because we lose someone. Somehow, you find the strength to keep going, and yes, to forget; not your loved one, but the intensity of the loss. It doesn't go away, it changes. Love, Virg

Rea de Miranda's avatar

True that Virg. 💞

Esther Stanway-Williams's avatar

I find hearing how your grief has evolved immeasurably helpful Rea. Thank you, as ever, for being so ‘real’, it helps me trust ‘the process’ so much more 🤗

Rea de Miranda's avatar

It gets easier with time Esther. Thank you for reading and being here. Sending love. ❤️

Chris Keller's avatar

I am struggling with milestones. I am experiencing all of the firsts you never want to experience alone. Seeing people who have started to come out the other side gives me hope.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

It is hell Chris. I didn't think I would survive it. You are in my thoughts. Take one day at a time, and even only one moment at a time. 💗

Maralet Meyer's avatar

I'm so grateful that you had the strength to build your life up again after it fell apart so many times. You are a inspiration ♥️

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Maralet. You have been a rock!

Marcia Abboud's avatar

Oh, Rea 💔 I felt every heartbreaking milestone with you. I'm so sorry for your heartbreak. It's unfathomable. You are an inspiration. Keep writing these stories 🤍

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you for your support Marcia. <3

Marcia Abboud's avatar

You’re so welcome, Rea xx

Lindsay Southwick's avatar

I’m simultaneously heartbroken for you and in awe of your strength, Rea. You’re making so many people feel seen through your writing.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you for your lovely words Lindsay. I appreciate it. ❤️

Dr Priyanka Upadhyai's avatar

Broke my heart reading this. Raw and powerful. Thanks for sharing

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you for reading and your kind comment.

Cecilia At The Kitchens Garden's avatar

Oh yes. All of this. Yes.

Stephanie Marie's avatar

I’m so glad you found a way to live and breathe again. You are a force, and I see you. Sending so much love to you.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Stephanie. 💞💞

Suswati Basu's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this part of yourself, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with us. I'm truly sorry for what you've gone through. I can't imagine.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you for your kind words Suswati! I appreciate it.