I have found such peace within the last year resigning to the fact that, yes, we are not in control and fighting against it, is just so harmful to one's health.
I am behind every single word of this. I share the 3 tragedy elements too…losing mum/husband/son in ways which rocked me to my core. You are so right…our only control is how we respond. In that lies our peace. Thank you for reminding me, Rea x
So powerful lieve Rea 💙 And so relatable, for losing loved ones way too soon in my and their lives.
But you're absolutely right, it is what you do with it after that... how you decide to live after major things have happened... because they do, mostly when you least expect it. 🙏🏻🌬🦋
A repetitive cycle of peaks and valleys in life is reality. To deny that, is harmful. To accept that and roll with it, is healthy. Not to be pessimistic is hard. Fatalistic is a bit sad, we are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's stressful, to understate it. Acceptace with joy is my goal. Hope you are the same. Thanks for this piece. Love, Virg.
Maybe that's what it takes. My best friend and I were just talking about two hours ago about the death of her father. Both she and her brother were taught to fight and work hard, and told that if they did that, they could achieve anything, do anything. Well, they could not save their dad. She finally gave up. Her brother though - he fought like a mad person after there was no chance.
Afterwards her brother could not forgive himself, but she was able to accept it all and whatever came next. I've watched her since then. She is so strong.
Rea, my typos! Ugh! So much for being a writer/editor! I mean to say that you've been through so much. I value your writing so much, for your honesty and heart, plus you are crazy talented and prolific. XX
To paraphrase Ren: life is a dance. The more rigid you are, the more you'll stumble over your own feet. Or something like that. I think you get the picture.
It seems so simple. But there's true power in that surrender. It's hardly ever easy 🖤
To learn how to accept reality, and work on the things we can effect, is to achieve a measure of contentment
True that, Adrian.
I have found such peace within the last year resigning to the fact that, yes, we are not in control and fighting against it, is just so harmful to one's health.
I found it harmful to my mental health, that continuous fighting against it. Resigned to the fact, brings peace. <3
As much as I hate the saying " it is what it is" , it rings true.
We can't control what happens to us as much as how we respond.
💙🫂
That saying says exactly what it is, Debra. <3
Life comes,
One heart beat at a time,
Uncertain,
Perhaps the next won’t,
Perhaps we’ll skip a beat,
Perhaps we’ll skip them all,
The best box empty without warning.
♾️
We move theough our lives,
like water running down a slope
toward an inevitable destination,
pulled by gravity,
and moving every faster,
our speed the same,
but time compressed and rushing around us,
until it doesn’t.
Time runs on,
but we fail to run with it.
This is just
Life.
True words, Emma. <3
Meet the facts cling-free,
allow this whole while, now, here.
Simple, not easy.
...
In resonance:
https://marisolmunozkiehne.substack.com/p/accepting-acting-and
Definitely not easy, Marisol. But we have to get through it. Thank you.
Rea,
Wow! 🙏🏼🤍
what you wrote is truly a treasure to me…
Not because of the form, but because of the raw truth that breathes through it.
It’s the kind of piece one returns to — not because it’s beautiful, but because it names something deeply familiar.
As if you gave words to things many people silently carry but never knew how to express.
Thank you for the courage, the calm, and the depth.🙏🏼
Your writing isn’t just a story — it’s a gift. And I cherish it.🤍
Thank you, Dora. Comments like this touches my heart. <3
I feel exactly the same. I find a meditation called ‘Radical Acceptance’ helped me realise this, and calmed me. 🤍
Meditation also calmed my crazy mind. Acceptance was a huge struggle for me. <3
I am behind every single word of this. I share the 3 tragedy elements too…losing mum/husband/son in ways which rocked me to my core. You are so right…our only control is how we respond. In that lies our peace. Thank you for reminding me, Rea x
I hope the saying that it happens in threes is the truth, Esther. Then we are home free. <3
Yes…I’m a great believer in the power of threes (and the fact that enough is enough!) x
Enough is enough! <3 v<3
So powerful lieve Rea 💙 And so relatable, for losing loved ones way too soon in my and their lives.
But you're absolutely right, it is what you do with it after that... how you decide to live after major things have happened... because they do, mostly when you least expect it. 🙏🏻🌬🦋
When we least expect it. True that, lieve Vlinder.
i love this lesson in letting go… beautiful, rea.
Thank you, Pen.
A repetitive cycle of peaks and valleys in life is reality. To deny that, is harmful. To accept that and roll with it, is healthy. Not to be pessimistic is hard. Fatalistic is a bit sad, we are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's stressful, to understate it. Acceptace with joy is my goal. Hope you are the same. Thanks for this piece. Love, Virg.
I accept with joy, Virg. Thank you!
In Stillness--that place between thought and emotion, there is acceptance and contentment. Hard to find. Worth the quest.
Absolutely worth it. Thank you.
It's all perspective, dear. 🙏🏻✝️🫶🏻
That it is, Marpy. <3
Oh Rea, you've been so much. Radical acceptance is very difficult. I don't think I'll ever reach it myself.
I didn’t think I would, Patty. But I had to, because I was going insane.
Maybe that's what it takes. My best friend and I were just talking about two hours ago about the death of her father. Both she and her brother were taught to fight and work hard, and told that if they did that, they could achieve anything, do anything. Well, they could not save their dad. She finally gave up. Her brother though - he fought like a mad person after there was no chance.
Afterwards her brother could not forgive himself, but she was able to accept it all and whatever came next. I've watched her since then. She is so strong.
Your friend is a strong person, Patty. That fighting against it drives us crazy. I've been there. Hugs
Rea, my typos! Ugh! So much for being a writer/editor! I mean to say that you've been through so much. I value your writing so much, for your honesty and heart, plus you are crazy talented and prolific. XX
Don’t worry about it, Patty! I comment with the wrong names. Haha!
To paraphrase Ren: life is a dance. The more rigid you are, the more you'll stumble over your own feet. Or something like that. I think you get the picture.
It seems so simple. But there's true power in that surrender. It's hardly ever easy 🖤
It wasn’t easy, you are right. But it freed me. <3
Great reminder of our limitations, which we tend to ignore. Really enjoyed your wise poem, Rea.
Thank you, Luis! <3