Why is it that people stay in friendships that are only to their detriment? Is it misguided loyalty that makes us stay friends with people who always hurt us? If a “friend” is always belittling you and insulting you, does it do you any good? I found this quote and it says so much to me: “An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.” - Buddha
We should do what is good for us, and being friends with someone who is not a real friend is a waste of time. When someone starts hurting you or making your life miserable with their negativity, it isn’t worth the effort of having them around. A friend should be someone with whom you can share your woes, and not have to worry that they will use that against you in the future.
Kahlil Gibran says, “Let your best be for your friend.” So if their best is not for you, then why do you stay in their company? If you don’t feel comfortable with someone, it isn’t a friendship, only a hardship. If you are with someone who always finds something hurtful to say to you, they are not deepening your spirit. They are wounding you for their selfish reasons.
Gibran also says that in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed. A friend should be there for you and feel your joy as well as your pain. You share your secrets and desires with someone you can trust and who should feel comfortable doing the same with you.
We spend too much time with people we have no connection with. People we don’t even relate to on any level. We participate in senseless activities to make an impression, while slowly dying inside. “For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace,” says Gibran. If there is no peace in your togetherness, why do you stay?
It is better to have one or two true friends than a whole bunch with whom you have nothing in common. A true friend is someone who cares about you and would never break your heart. Let your best be for your friend.
Namaste
Totally agree with you Rea! My first best friend has to be myself ( working on this) and just have a couple of real best friends, I cherish them and trust them with my life ❤️
That's why solitude is so precious. It can reveal some answers to hard questions like these, if you dare to ask yourself. It's also a great way to find a true friend, and that friend is youself! Loved the topic and the writing! 🤍