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Joe Nichols's avatar

I think guilt has a place as a guide but that quickly turns tyrannical if allowed. That said I’m sure he is proud. As proud, no more so, than the ones that see your heart here.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Oh Joe! That is so beautiful. Thank you.

Lasita's avatar

Having gone through the death of my daughter from a car collision with a truck, in which i was the driver, i experienced guilt. I reach out with love and empathy to you.

My daughter’s name is Joy. My depth of sorrow felt like it took all joy. With time, I have felt like she is with me in spirit.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

I'm so sorry Lasita! I can not imagine your depth of guilt. Joy is with you Lasita, every second. I know it in my heart. Sending you peace love and light. Please know I am here for you. 🤗💞

Debra Martin's avatar

Guilt is the added burden we place upon ourselves. Like you said a useless emotion. I think and I may be wrong that we use guilt to mask the anger over a situation out of our control.

I have carried guilt for different reasons, yet those same what if`s and could haves are the same.

My heart goes out to you for the pain of your loss. 💞🫂💙

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Debra for adding your thoughts here, and for your kindness. 🩷

Dr Priyanka Upadhyai's avatar

I’m so sorry again that you’ve had to live through this pain. Guilt is inevitable with love. When we love we are imprisoned by feelings such as guilt and pain. And only love can liberate us from these.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

That is definitely so true. If not for the love there would be no guilt. 💞

Jessica Sweazey's avatar

I’ve been teaching myself how to turn weeping willows into bonsai trees, I have about 10 of them I’m working on!

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Wow Jessica! I didn’t know you could. I want to see what it looks like!

Jessica Sweazey's avatar

I will see if I. Can send you a picture

sandra's avatar

This was devastatingly beautiful to read. I enjoyed it very much

Rea de Miranda's avatar

I’m happy you enjoyed it!

Katherine Widner Poetry's avatar

This touched me somewhere I don’t think I I even knew was possible. Beautiful work. Thank you so much for writing it. ❤️

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you for reading Katherine. I am glad it touched you!

Aliyah's avatar

What an incredible way to document your emotional journey. You’re right . Guilt doesn’t serve us. It can be so painful going down the rabbit hole of “if only.” Im so glad you’ve made it out. You sound like an absolutely amazing, dedicated, loving and supportive mother. I hope you never, ever forget that.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

It was hell, but I survived. Thank you Aliyah!

Aurelia Katete's avatar

Guilt is a hard teacher. It shows us the lessons we don't want to learn. I am glad you were able to come to terms with all of this. I know the guilt still resides under the surface and that will never go away. But I am glad you were able to remain strong and know that your son knew and knows where your heart truly lies.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Aurelia! 💞

Stephanie Marie's avatar

This was beautiful. I am so sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing your heart here. Blessings to you.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Stephanie. Blessings right back. 💞

Lindsay Southwick's avatar

Rea, I am speechless. Your words are beautiful. Your love for your sweet boy is beautiful. I cannot imagine the pain you have endured. Thanks for sharing.

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Lindsay! 🤍

Nicole Lise Feingold's avatar

Love this quote, ‘Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.’ Important piece!

Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thanks Nicole. 🧡

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Thank you Kasomba. Blessings!

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Rea de Miranda's avatar

Thank you Melanie. I appreciate your caring comment. Hopefully it reaches those who need it. 🧡💛

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Rea de Miranda's avatar

That is a beautiful thought Melanie. 🩷

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Thank you for your lovely comment Kimitee. I am sorry you lost your brother and what you went through. 💞