I enjoy being alone. No drama. No one to please or entertain. Except my husband and my children. We don't need to be in each other's company all day, he gives me space which I gladly do in return.
Having a word, for it makes me feel less alien! I never feel lonely alone, but I often feel lonely around people. I wonder if there's a word for that, too? Thank you,Rea, for giving voice to my soul.
I definitely don't see this as a "malady". For the first 6 decades of my life, before realizing I'm autistic, I certainly knew I didn't get the same pleasure out of socializing that others seem to. I knew that some people hated to be alone, but I've always loved solitude. When I would read about the women scientists who spent their lives living among primates (Jane Goodall, Dian Fossey, and Birutė Galdikas), I felt a deep envy that was not only for their opportunity to study chimpanzees, gorillas, and orangutans, but also for their extensive periods of time spent away from other humans. Oddly perhaps, I ended up being a language teacher -- a job I loved, but which took up all of my social energy to the extent that I sometimes lost my voice in situations with people who were not students. Now I'm retired and luckily married to another neurodivergent who also needs time alone. He is more social than I am, but is very understanding of my lack of interest in joining him at most social occasions.
I enjoy being alone. No drama. No one to please or entertain. Except my husband and my children. We don't need to be in each other's company all day, he gives me space which I gladly do in return.
Thank you for your beautiful comment. You are a lucky duck!
Having a word, for it makes me feel less alien! I never feel lonely alone, but I often feel lonely around people. I wonder if there's a word for that, too? Thank you,Rea, for giving voice to my soul.
I searched all over, and can't that elusive word Boo!
Ok let’s make our own word, then….?
I understand that kind of lonely as well Boo. I will have to go search for the word to describe that.
Thank you!
This is so me! I cannot “people” for very long as well 🙂 I really prefer being by myself.
Thank you my friend!
I like to have people home-I’d just prefer they did their own things! Lol I’m not positive what that makes me.
Halfway between? Thank you Marie!
I definitely don't see this as a "malady". For the first 6 decades of my life, before realizing I'm autistic, I certainly knew I didn't get the same pleasure out of socializing that others seem to. I knew that some people hated to be alone, but I've always loved solitude. When I would read about the women scientists who spent their lives living among primates (Jane Goodall, Dian Fossey, and Birutė Galdikas), I felt a deep envy that was not only for their opportunity to study chimpanzees, gorillas, and orangutans, but also for their extensive periods of time spent away from other humans. Oddly perhaps, I ended up being a language teacher -- a job I loved, but which took up all of my social energy to the extent that I sometimes lost my voice in situations with people who were not students. Now I'm retired and luckily married to another neurodivergent who also needs time alone. He is more social than I am, but is very understanding of my lack of interest in joining him at most social occasions.
I use the word malady in jest, not to offend. Yes! To be able to live in nature alone without humans will be perfect for me.
Your comment gives a deeper understanding to autism. Thank you for sharing your experience Lanita!
That makes perfect sense!
I know right?! Party party our way to hikikomori Rachel. I don't know when I have last had a real connection to anyone. 🤎🧡