Rea, this was raw, resonant, and beautifully brave. I felt every line like a confession whispered in a quiet room. Thank you for speaking what so many are afraid to say out loud: that love can wound as much as it can uplift, and that sometimes, guarding our hearts feels safer than trusting them again. Maybe the right kind of love won’t ask you to bleed quietly or shrink your intensity. Maybe it will meet you with equal parts courage and care. Until then, thank you for letting us witness your heart's content.
Thanks for naming the ache that comes with wanting love and fearing it at the same time. When love has carried pain in its arms before, of course you hesitate. That’s not weakness. That’s memory doing its job!
Sending love Rea, your story resonates. I was once you, I think so many have been and still are. When I realized that without an open heart we stay victims of the past and stuck in the pain, I knew I had no choice, but to open up. Because all life is love, there is nothing else really. The heart emits the highest vibrational frequency and is necessary for life creation. To attract to us all that we desire and deserve.
When we close the heart so we don't experience more pain, we also don't experience love,joy,abundance and pleasure. And that's no life.
Only a life of lack.
Sending your courage and love Rea, you can take those walls down, do it gently...slowly...brick by brick ❤️✨🙏
I hae to apologize for the lateness of my comment. I'm behind on my reading. I have to say that reading this made me sad. I am one who loves "too much" and with that willingness to love comes the risk of heartbreak. I've been where you are, and it was there that I found, not my soulmate, but my partner, the complement to my soul and personality. We've been together nearly 20 year now, I had given up on love, but when we met, I couldn't help myself. The difference with this man is that the quality of our relationship is more honest, real, and less drama and game-playing. A more mature knowing of how I need to be loved, and how to fully love someone else. I hope you find that as well. Love, Virg
And I am very cautious of what I am about to say (referring to our messages we exchanged)
How I see it it's not something (and I will talk in Singular first instead of Plural first especially because I don't know how it is for others) I can choose. It's either a yes or a no. Someone comes into my life and boom, that's it. Or slowly lights a fire. There is no knowing if anything ever becomes of it. But there is something inside that’s moved. There is recognition.
I chose not to question it, but wait and see. Circumstances? Like everything, they change.
It doesn't mean that I'll push or change anything because of it.
You know… they say it happens if it’s meant to be.
To sum it up: for me, love is never something that can be calculated or predicted. If it's there, it's hot and burns, if not, then it’s not love. Not romantic anyway.
Can I live without it? Surely I can. But is it worth it? That is a question to answer and act upon. If I am brave enough.
But whatever. Who am I? I don’t know the answers, just contemplate about the concept of it. I am thinking that until I breathe, I am not too old to feel… even love, if it knocks on my door… or if it bursts in.
Harriet, you keep on amazing me! Brave. That is the important word here. You make me think. Am I brave enough to allow it? I will have to wait and see. Thank you for this beautiful and thoughtful comment. ❤️❤️
It seems to be one of those unlearnable lessons in life - to stop being drawn to people who are bad for you.
Kind of like a destructive spiral, where the people who are bad for you lure you in, and simultaneously you push away the people who could have a much more possible influence on your life.
Maybe being a hopeless romantic or a lost soul means being unconsciously masochistic?
That's a damn fine question Rea. I will have to get back to you on that. But trying to avoid overthinking and being patient might be the key to better understanding people, I would say.
Though, for me, I do not feel I am lacking in life because I don't have a mate. That time has come and gone in my life and what lays ahead is a journey I don't mind walking alone.
Even the coldest stone, takes the heat of the water all around it, gently absorbing it without even knowing it until the warmth is part of the stone.
Beautiful friends like you warm the stones, Emma.
❤️ I think you sing the song of many women.
Sadly Sam. 💞
Rea, this was raw, resonant, and beautifully brave. I felt every line like a confession whispered in a quiet room. Thank you for speaking what so many are afraid to say out loud: that love can wound as much as it can uplift, and that sometimes, guarding our hearts feels safer than trusting them again. Maybe the right kind of love won’t ask you to bleed quietly or shrink your intensity. Maybe it will meet you with equal parts courage and care. Until then, thank you for letting us witness your heart's content.
Thank you for listening to my heart Mymy. Your words touched me. 💗
Thanks for naming the ache that comes with wanting love and fearing it at the same time. When love has carried pain in its arms before, of course you hesitate. That’s not weakness. That’s memory doing its job!
Thank you my sweet friend. 💞💓💗
Sending love Rea, your story resonates. I was once you, I think so many have been and still are. When I realized that without an open heart we stay victims of the past and stuck in the pain, I knew I had no choice, but to open up. Because all life is love, there is nothing else really. The heart emits the highest vibrational frequency and is necessary for life creation. To attract to us all that we desire and deserve.
When we close the heart so we don't experience more pain, we also don't experience love,joy,abundance and pleasure. And that's no life.
Only a life of lack.
Sending your courage and love Rea, you can take those walls down, do it gently...slowly...brick by brick ❤️✨🙏
Thank you Nicola. I appreciate your beautiful words. ❤️
Here for you cheering you on lovely ❤️✨🙏
Thank you lovely Nicola. ❤️
I hae to apologize for the lateness of my comment. I'm behind on my reading. I have to say that reading this made me sad. I am one who loves "too much" and with that willingness to love comes the risk of heartbreak. I've been where you are, and it was there that I found, not my soulmate, but my partner, the complement to my soul and personality. We've been together nearly 20 year now, I had given up on love, but when we met, I couldn't help myself. The difference with this man is that the quality of our relationship is more honest, real, and less drama and game-playing. A more mature knowing of how I need to be loved, and how to fully love someone else. I hope you find that as well. Love, Virg
Thank you, Virg! Anything is possible. I am happy you found your soulmate!
Rea— love is risky. Sharing your truth was risky.
I believe you are brave in telling your story. It shows that you love yourself. That takes courage.
Be gentle with yourself. With the process— this messy process we call life.
Thank you for your kind words, Mary. 💗
You’re welcome. I know I’m still in process. Let’s keep going! 💕
It's not love if it isn't all-in, Rea. Don't lose hope, and keep giving it all.
Thank you for giving me hope, Mahdi. 🙏
Very good piece. I kind of wonder if by even asking the question about opening yourself up to the possibility, you already know the answer.
Thank you Chris. To be honest, after all the lovely encouragement I received, it may be a yes. 😊
I so relate to this, thank you.
Thank you Jess. 💞
I love how you make me think...
Tell me what you think Harriet.
So much. I will, if you want, in a little bit.
I love how you make me think...
And I am very cautious of what I am about to say (referring to our messages we exchanged)
How I see it it's not something (and I will talk in Singular first instead of Plural first especially because I don't know how it is for others) I can choose. It's either a yes or a no. Someone comes into my life and boom, that's it. Or slowly lights a fire. There is no knowing if anything ever becomes of it. But there is something inside that’s moved. There is recognition.
I chose not to question it, but wait and see. Circumstances? Like everything, they change.
It doesn't mean that I'll push or change anything because of it.
You know… they say it happens if it’s meant to be.
To sum it up: for me, love is never something that can be calculated or predicted. If it's there, it's hot and burns, if not, then it’s not love. Not romantic anyway.
Can I live without it? Surely I can. But is it worth it? That is a question to answer and act upon. If I am brave enough.
But whatever. Who am I? I don’t know the answers, just contemplate about the concept of it. I am thinking that until I breathe, I am not too old to feel… even love, if it knocks on my door… or if it bursts in.
Harriet, you keep on amazing me! Brave. That is the important word here. You make me think. Am I brave enough to allow it? I will have to wait and see. Thank you for this beautiful and thoughtful comment. ❤️❤️
Aww. Thanks.
I hope you'll be brave enough to allow it to come into your life. <3
This is a spoiler of sorts, I learned when I finished my novella. The last line:
"It's better to go the distance than not and later regret not having the experience."
Hugs,
H.
Great line! 💗
Oh my.... Rea... How I relate to what you are saying and it hurts.
Opening up our hearts 💕
Thank you for your raw writing.
Dank ! And a hug going out your way 🫂🌬🦋
Love and hugs going back Simona. 💞🫂
Dankie !
Plesier!
It seems to be one of those unlearnable lessons in life - to stop being drawn to people who are bad for you.
Kind of like a destructive spiral, where the people who are bad for you lure you in, and simultaneously you push away the people who could have a much more possible influence on your life.
Maybe being a hopeless romantic or a lost soul means being unconsciously masochistic?
Also nice text by the way:)
You are right of course, Rasmus. How do I break that cycle? Life is an adventure and perhaps excitement is my downfall. Caught in my own trap.
That's a damn fine question Rea. I will have to get back to you on that. But trying to avoid overthinking and being patient might be the key to better understanding people, I would say.
Thank you for your thoughtful reply.
Rea, I understand and know your feelings.
Though, for me, I do not feel I am lacking in life because I don't have a mate. That time has come and gone in my life and what lays ahead is a journey I don't mind walking alone.
I don't feel lack Debra, but the thought comes and goes. ❤️
Oh yes, I get that from time to time. The what if kind of thing, especially when included in activities where there are couples.
We open our hearts and let life in. ✌️❤️
I am opening my heart Richard. Come what may. 💕
This was so raw and earnest. A moving piece for sure!
I am happy it moved you Gabrielle. Thank you. ❤️